Thursday, July 30, 2009

Time to Opine

While I opine about the situation I am in; because of the in-laws, I had forgotten that the summer is almost over and left to myself, I would have anyway worn the clothes that I am forced to wear because of them.

Saw the partner who comes home much later than me, eat happily, chit chat with parents, giggle with me in bed, and somehow find time to do the things that he loves to do- read a book or watch a movie, and I realize how much complacent I have become or how busy I was, feeling busy. I am sure he must be getting good sleep too, while I worry myself bald and worry over the baldness again.

I am friends with a lady who sell vegetables. I am her regular customer. Yes, I am good at it- relationships (I think). She is 26, younger than me and has 3 kids. 2 daughters and a son. Sometimes, I give her a little extra money; sometimes she gives me a little more vegetable. I gave her son; the clothes that I had intended to gift my nephew and keep telling her not to have another child. She smiles and keeps saying ‘yes’. I suddenly notice her stomach bulge again. She covers it with her sari if she sees me. Don’t know if I am imagining. I often ignore her smile, and start to worry about her, about the kids, the world, population, pollution, and wonder if I’d ever want to have a child of my own. She seems to be ever-smiling through it all.

30 comments:

Miss M said...

Wow! My mom is just like you.
Making friends with shopkeepers, taxi drivers, bus drivers. Once I had gone back home for vacations...and I had gone out with her. While coming back home by bus, just before getting down she said 'bye' to the bus driver. I was surprised. I asked her why she said bye to the bus driver and she replies, "Oh I know her"!

Wow indeed.

Arunima said...

haha, your mom is better than me. Elders are better I feel. They trust people more than us also while we tend to be judgmental

austere said...

Thank you.
And nothing much one can do, is there?

Arunima said...

@austy: yup, nothing much. I don't know what is it that makes her happy. Maybe she has found the secret.

White Magpie said...

Should trust life to take care of its own, do our best and not think about things beyond our control. Don't be such a worry wart. Sometimes think "what my father goes" Okay? :)

Arunima said...

@white magpie: yes, I am able to appreciate the presence of my in-laws really well too.

Life should take care of its own. perhaps, that thinking is also right.

guess I am a little stressed out these days.

Stone said...

Time for vacation I say!

Arunima said...

@Stone: Yes, I think so. I have no time to take vacation also. :-)

abhirulz said...

somethg like dis is here in my house too...in my new house hold (sasural)..the maid is for past 10 years.. she has four daughters..one is just two year old and the eldest is 18... and she is still longing for a male child.. she goes like .."bhabhi hum logon mein agar beta nahi hoga..to mera pati doosri shadi kar lega" and the irony is she is too cool about it...
den i have just nothing else to add...
i spend a lot of time with the youngest..she is very authoritative..she ll dictate all the other helpers in the house ..and i often say.."jab ye badi hogi to isse pata chal jayega na that her parents work here"
i do feel quiet weird at times.. and on this my mom in law says..."zyada dimag mat chala..padhai mein dhyan de.."

Aflame!! said...

I believe its HOW you choose to be- Happy or Worrisome(Even i choose the same in my subconscios mind!! arrgghh)

AmitL said...

Hi,Arunima..I had a smile on my face,reading what you were 'opining' about,right from the summer being over to The Partner to the veggie seller lady...A big grin at the line'I give her a little extra money,sometimes she gives me a little more vegetable'-such a nice 'give and take' situation it is.
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Ahem-someone seems to be a bit envious of her partner and his ability to read a book,watch a movie,et al??:)Wonder if he feels envious that you're able to write so nicely,in your blog..:)

ramya said...

Well, if she is happy, there is no need to worry about her.
As far as the environment problems are concerned, not much can be done if people don't understand the issue.

Arunima said...

@Ramya: It might be a case of Ignorance is bliss. I am worried cos I do not wish her children grow up as vegetable sellers.

Anonymous said...

:) Arunima.. yes, you ARE stressed. Even I have wondered so much about life, pollution, population and everything and concluded to do my best to contribute to the enviroment. My colleague and I do our best to include people in reducing plastic usage, switching off systems, monitors and lights (I switch off lights in the washroom also, whenever I see that I am alone.. hehehe). As far as your choice of having children, please follow your heart. I have literally cried seeing the children held by the (so-called) beggars but they are destined to do so and they would be happy with that life! I hope you untangle yourself soon :)

My friend says (full filmy ishtyle)- Soch gehri ho jaye to iraade kamzor ho jate hai.

~Meenakshy

White Magpie said...

Couldnt resist since people are getting filmy here ;) "aag lage basti mein, hum hamari masti mein"

Cool thing to say; not a good thing to follow..wags finger at Arunima. Some things need to be left to their own devices.

Hope your stress has winded down.

Tys on Ice said...

let it be...we can never know each persons quotient of happiness...if there is such a thing...

did i ever tell u that u write so damn beautifuly?...i think i have...

Arunima said...

@tys: oho! I didn't mind hearing it again. :-)

Thank you sir.

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AmitL said...

You're tagged!!:)

Diwakar Sinha said...

I seem to be an exception to the lot of worrisome, anxious and tension-ready ppl whom I call my family. But sometimes things get done just because of that.

Pavi!!!! said...

Such a simple n honest post :)

Arunima said...

@AmitL: Thanks, Amit. I would love to do it. Give me some time. I am caught up with something.

@ PAvi: :-)

@Diwakar: I am an easy going person generally. Really good, if we can be detached.

wishes galore said...

you have been tagged!! n this one is fun:)

Anonymous said...

you are maturing!

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venkat said...

That was so nice of you to give clothes to her and it makes much more difference in her life. Oh! Please do not worry about things you have no control on. Babies and you, hope you do not keep on thinking too long :)

Imagination said...

****I often ignore her smile, and start to worry about her, about the kids, the world, population, pollution, and wonder if I’d ever want to have a child of my own.***

MY THOUGHT PATTERN EXACTLY :)

White Magpie said...

in exile kya?

Arunima said...

@white magpie: bonding with the mom-in-law. ;-)

AmitL said...

Hi,Arunima-you just answered the question(in the last comment)that I was about to ask-where r u?*Bonding with Ma-in-law'-that explains everything..:)Maybe u can write a joint post one of these days..hehehehehehe!