Sunday, November 13, 2011

growing up

Wearing the red sleeveless top for my sister's wedding, i felt on top of the world. Mom suddenly looked through her bifocal lens and insisted i wear another red, with sleeves. Both the tops looked similar in my eyes as we had to wear a shawl anyway over it, and been away from home for a long time, i was also shocked that someone could actually be strongly opinionated about what i should be wearing. ( i mean the past 10 yrs, i had roomies saying, "this might look better, but you eventually wore what you wanted and nobody mined.)  i said, "i am not going to change". Well, the talk moved away from clothing to how we are brought up and how we rebel because we stay away from parents. Mom got all emotional. i found it funny, but eventually changed and made her happy. i wore the top of her choice, which no one noticed under the shawl.

Another time, dad and mom came visiting Bangalore to meet with S before we tied the knot. i fought with dad over something. it was lunch time. it was over the way he spoke to mom if i remember correctly. i was so pissed that i said, "i am not having lunch." (yeah, like you did in childhood and wait for your parents to threaten or coax you at least three times. :-)) Suddenly, mom took dad's side and told me, i shouldn't be doing like that as they have come to my house. i didn't know when parents became so emotional and started saying your house, my house. i guess parents are sometimes insecure in their own children's homes.

umm, you can't be that kid forever with your parents, nor can you be all grown up in front of your parents.


kirti said...

Parents sometimes don't know when to stop parenting .
I got scoldings for coming home late at the age of 35, in an auto on my own after a dinner party and i received nice rebuke befitting a teen ager who did not respect curfew time .
So i guess you can not all be grown up.
Also , you can no longer be the same kid because they become overly sensitive to what we say to them as adults. I guess when we were kids they were not so touchy about what we spoke to them and how we spoke to them .

wishesgalore said...

the parents and the children both have this same characterstic: they both beleive that the other one is too young/old to do something and then they surprise the other by doing that perfectly..

shooting star said... one grows up and especially after marriage, tackling parents is tough..its a thin line to walk on!!