Monday, December 29, 2008

A mushy mushy tag

Invited by Pallavi Baruah.
I have removed the rules and the last question. Whoever wants to do, can do it.

1. If your lover betrayed you what would your reaction be?
Before I got married, whenever there was a breakup, this way or that, I’d cry myself to sleep but surprisingly, I’d wake up the next day with a feeling of ‘oh! What a wonderful world. Who’s next?’ attitude.
I got married believing this won’t happen. So, the answer is, I don’t know.

2. What’s it that you see in an ideal partner?
Shall I write something in the lines of ‘my man superman’ like most women in the early stages of marriage do? Ha ha!
Well, it is someone who can take my bullshit, someone who can tell me it is bullshit at the right time, yet love me.

3. What, according to you, is the perfect date?
3-jan, every year. :-) That is the day I receive birthday gifts.

4. Would you like to have children soon enough? Or would you wait till your mid-thirties for the first child?
Are you interested in the child or my age? There is tremendous parental pressure from both sides. Husband has gone deaf and slowly, I am also becoming deaf.
I always wanted a lot of kids and wanted it as soon as possible, but the few associations with under-priviledged children have changed my thinking on this. I make hoo haa about the small contributions and time that I make for these kids while S has gone ahead quietly and sponsored the education of a boy. Though I’d love to have a child of my own, I may end up finding happiness in supporting S.

5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Now, the husband is the best friend.
Talking of the past, yes, I did not even spare my best friend. Boo hoo! He was the cutest boy in class and the teachers’ pet too. It took a decade for our friendship to mature. He started in an MNC while I started in a small firm with a paltry sum for a salary. He encouraged and supported me throughout to dream big. I was pampered with a lot of gifts and free lunch (free lunch really matters when you are in a hostel) Then we fell for each other. I could not stand by him as I was not sure about what I wanted then. I lost a friend, his trust, the gifts and also the free food. :-)But he made me realise that I deserve to be happy and not take shit from others anymore.
Looking back, I cherish those ‘our moments’ that we had. It was nice to see him in a new light, all caring and eager to make his girl happy. Now, he has found a wonderful woman and I am very happy for him.

6. Which is more blessed: loving someone or being loved by someone?
Both can be really pleasant and at the same time a real pain. Imagine loving someone who doesn’t love you back or having someone whom you don’t love, professing love to you. Some guys almost threatened me for not loving them back.

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love?
6 months is a good enough time to judge if he is worth it.

8. If the person you secretly like is attached, what will you do?
Wish they’d break up and he’d fall fall for me, while plotting schemes to make him fall for me along with my own back-up strategy if things don’t happen the way I hope.

9. What do you think are the foundation stones of a good relationship?
You should be comfortable in your own skin, laugh a lot together. The commitment follows automatically.

10. What according to you is the most beautiful thing about relationships or marriage?
Being together, sharing and caring. The feeling of ‘forever’ that marriage gives is something worth cherishing.

11. Where do you see yourself 10 years from now?
I‘d be raising a child, adopted, stolen or by having gone through the process of balooning myself. I’d still be working and not changed many companies. I’d still be troubling the hubby on small things and acting oversmart on smaller things. Would still love to blog. Gosh, I’d be almost 40!

12. What’s your fear?
Losing my brains, which I feel is happening slowly.

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
Oh, I have never met her though I have been following her for more than 4 years now and she seems to be a very positive, fun and practical person.

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
What about married , rich, successful and extremely happy?

15. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously who will you pick?
God, it was really tough. I picked the one whom I loved more just to realise he didn’t love me enough and then it went in circles until I was left with neither. :-)

16. Would you give all in a relationship?
As long as it doesn’t compromise my principles, identity and independence. So, it is a ‘yes’ and a ‘no’ as well.

17. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done?
Forgive perhaps, forget perhaps not. I am not ready to make it nice always.

18. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
With all the hearbreaks and ups and downs, I love being in a relationship. I love belonging to someone, I love to care for someone, I love being loved.


**Sri Harsha** said...

"Wish they’d break up and he’d fall fall for me"

Ha ha ...

Exactly what I am doing these days, except that person is a "she" ...

Wish me luck :-)

Suspended Animation said...

On point 4, I think doing so quietly is the key... god bless you both! and I can soooo identify with number 5..
"Imagine loving someone who doesn’t love you back or having someone whom you don’t love, professing love to you." - Dreadful!
"Wish they’d break up and he’d fall fall for me, while plotting schemes to make him fall for me along with my own back-up strategy if things don’t happen the way I hope." - Wicked, but nice anyway!!! :D

Nice reading.. and honest ones..

btw.. Merry Christmas(belated)

Enjoy and take care..

AmitL said...

Well-those were some nice n genuine and some humorous answers.:)(*notes down 3rd Jan to send bday wish*)
Fear of losing brains-ROFL..I wonder whether there's a term for that,like,say'neurogone-ophobia'?..I guess it'd be nicer to say'worried about grey cells reducing in quantity'
The last one was very nice-"I love belonging to someone, I love to care for someone, I love being loved." How true-sheer bliss,that one!

Arunima said...

@Sri Harsha: All the best. It is important to let her know that you are there in the scene.

Suspended Animation: You really need to be on your toes in this game. Life is too short you see. I really had my time though :-)

AmitL: I'll be counting on you to send me wishes. I don't think I can remember the term, 'neurogone-ophobia' or anything like that.

Anonymous said...

So genuine answers!!!!
I particularly liked the one "wish they'd break up"...wicked but true:-)
Am yet to start a blog.. these days in the process of blog-reading;) n you are truely an amazing writer!!!

Arunima said...

@Monika: Thanks a lot!

You must start blogging right away.

manuscrypts said...

and as is turning out to be usual, i agree with S on 4 :) hope you had a great xmas :)

ramya said...

You write so well :)
Till now, i used to be a fan of your bolgs. But now, I am your fan too!

Arunima said...

@Ramya: That is so flattering. Thank you.

At your age, I was such a fool. We had no blogs then. :-)

Cynic in Wonderland said...

The awwwwwwwwwww moment.

You know i was thinking abt this post. I reckon the answer would vastly vary depending on the day. what does that make me? confuseD?

Pallavi said...

Hahah cool.. I loved reading this.. :)

Arunima said...

@cynic: yes, you are right. :-)

shub said...

I loved how honest the answers are :) Will come back and re-read it I think :)

Tys on Ice said...

happy birthday girl; and a great new year

Cynic in Wonderland said...

appy new year

Anonymous said...

Happy Birthday girl.. Wish you a very happy day.. fun and love filled, peaceful and successful year ahead.

I have been following your blog for some time now (11 months).. and have enjoyed each post of it :). Keep writing

- Meenakshy (Ramya's sister)

AmitL said...

Hi,Arunima-you see,I remembered:

Wishing you a Very Very Happy Birthday and many more to come!!

Looking forward to a birthday post,today!!Will check later to see if it's posted:)

s! said...

yikes! seems like i missed quite a bit.. you're married now? congratulations!

happy new year and happy everything else also! :-)

Dee said...

Nice one!!

And for posterity Happy Birthday!!

White Magpie said...

Q18 is an oxymoron isnt it? I picked up the tag..Moi New Year post..Pretty honest of you..

Nithya said...

Good heavens!!
I could almost feel I was reading my own thoughts!! Felt so much like me!!