As I was crossing the road alone, a few months back, one guy just called me “eh chinky!” and bursted out laughing. He was with 3 of his friends. Ok, so, he was teasing me. Categorising me and my race or the people from North-East India as lesser beings I guess. Anyway, I’ll be back with more experiences and how I handle this issue some other time. It will be a long post definitely.
So, I turned back and saw the way this guy was giggling away accompanied by his 3 other friends. It did oodles to his ego, teasing a girl. I also got very irritated seeing him, his looks and thought definitely the minds of such people must be as ugly as SIN. I also called him back loud and clear, ”VEERAPAN” and walked away. He acted he didn’t hear but his face told otherwise. His friends didn’t stop laughing.
Then there is this guy who told me that the problem is I am too perfect for him. I read it somewhere, if a guy says, ‘I don’t deserve you’, believe him. So, perhaps he doesn’t deserve me.
Coming back to lighter things, a few days back everybody laughed at Ankita’s song. She is the only person in the family who can make my dad dance on her fingers. She pulled him in front of the TV and asked him to dance and dad just did that it seems. Making my dad do such a thing is like touching the face of a hungry lion. So, mom is all praises for her. Something she couldn’t do in more than 30 years of marriage, this kid did it in just 2 years.
Now, it seems from the crèche, where she has learnt that cute mosquito song, she has also picked up a lot of bad words and everybody is having a tough time correcting her :-)
29 comments:
Ah....the kid is gettin enlightened...;)...they are damn smart!!!
First of all I meant no offense. I heard from my friends in Bangalore that most of the young pro's in Bangalore are from north-east and they are called 'Chinkies'. I know that doesn't justify the guy who teased you, thinking any American is a George Bush. But it looks like what my friends told is a common gesture.
I did liked your reply.
But he is not to blame though, he KNOWS that nice guys finish last and being one isnt worth it...
Your comment on shub's blog brought me to this space. Nice thing you have going here! I see myself stopping by often.
LOL @ your reply! Serves him right!
lol...chill dear
cant be as offensive as being called "bihari" ;)
no offence intended for anyone
lolololol
@Jo: well, I am not here to change some peoples concept or why they should be or shouldn't be thinking that way.
Were your friends really sleeping around? If not, they must have just heard like the way you have heard from them. As far as I know, there are sex workers everywhere in the world.
One thing is 'unfamiliarity' I guess. We need to have an open mind to cultures and people, only then, we can learn to judge them well.
@burf and deep: Actually, I started laughing out loud too at my reply. I suddenly started getting innovative ideas on seeing that fellow.
@gratisgap: Thanks for dropping by.
it was a fitting reply .
in mumbai some of these people badmouth people from north esp delhiites , northies. these are "educated " guys. one of my collegues does that infront of me. i dont say anything , coz i dont want to aggravate the issue.
tho i feel like bashin up the jerk . you know what , i will do that one day.
I just love "chinki's", reminds me so much of my childhood days. In my opinion they some of the most easy going and amicable people. Sad that not many know about them.
But then you must bong, Arunima. Or are you from Manipur?
Next time around try Ravan, :). Hey what song are we talking about here ...........
:-) you go, gurl! :)
yup, lil kids always help u update..lol
(Apologies for the lengthy comment here, Arunima.)
I remember 2 college classmates who said to me-"Man, I never knew that someone far away from the north eastern hills with peculiar nose, slit eyes, straight hair, small behind can be so unimaginably frank, outspoken, liberated, articulate, intelligent, moralistic(??),God-fearing(??)and be comfortable with the larger mainland Indian people."
To which my best college friend, a Mangalorean had replied "Arnt we all Indians?"
Aren’t we??? Why segregate citizens of one country based on looks and worse still, typecast them just because someone isn’t' so good in geography to distinguish people from different states with similar features.Does one sex worker kannadiga, one sex worker tamilian, one sex worker telegu girl, one sex worker tulu, one sex worker malayali sum up to 5 sex worker tamillians/kannadigas/tulus/malayalis? No. The said profession exists in all states.
None of my close friends calls my race or me by any nickname. I am just me, no different from any other Indian citizen. Because my friends knows my race and me well.
As for the eve-teasers, they don’t know what is respect leave alone geography.
Pl educate yourself, Jo. No offense, just a suggestion.
Hey, that was cute! (Not the eve-teasing). My daughter's antics are something similar, tho' thankfully she's not picked up any 'bad' word yet *fingers crossed*.
Take care.
Hey Arunima,
that was a wonderful reply.. hahaha.. i am still laughing. you have great wit and presence of mind. :D
"As for the eve-teasers, they don’t know what is respect leave alone geography."
Romilla said it.
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My 3.5 yr ole nephew also creates uncomfortable situations by using his newly acquired glossary at wrong times.
was here after a long time. read all that i had missed. quickly scrolled down to "i am a virgin" you got me there. will always think of you if i hear that line again.
cheers,
Arunima, Romila:-> I don't know whether you got me right. What I said is what I heard. If that was my opinion, I would dare to tell that straight here. There is a strong common gesture as such in between the youngsters in Bangalore. I was just pointing out to that. (Please read my comment thoroughly). So as I know once upon a time mallu movies were known as rated R all over India. When my friend was doing C-Dac in Bangalore his fellow room mates, from AP, Bihar etc were asking "you have lots of sex movies over there, right?". Actually malayali movies and directors are famous for its own class all over India and abroad. But see what the common gesture is. And I know Malayalis all over India being called as "Mallus", but I never heard someone take that as an offense.
And Romila, honestly, I dont understand how should I educate myself on this. It is good that you keep the spirit "we as Indians", but there is a lot more issues about race in India. Mostly, between North and South Indians.
No offense, but it seems better than being called Lukhe. :))
Good for you: calling him Veerappan. Hecklers will be fools regardless of their location. He would've called you some other name if not this. Bother not, slay them all.
-- Heretic
"...Categorising me and my race or the people from North-East India as lesser beings I guess."
I guess u r right. Nevermind, we are a minority in this country.
"...I read it somewhere, if a guy says, ‘I don’t deserve you’, believe him. So, perhaps he doesn’t deserve me...."
Hey hey when a guy says u r too perfect for him, dont believe him all the time ;-) , he might be having some other problems(well, a guy wd never say no to a girl JUST B'COS she is too good for him..and this happens in the movies though). He must be really scared of his mom ;-)
goood rebuke!!!
...and till now I used to think "Chinki" was a complement(isn't it?) *rasied eyebrow*
But Veerappan!! - ROTFL .. that must have been pissed him of for days and shaved twice a day for sure ;-)
Ironic isn't it.......i used to call one ol' friend of mine,who now happens to be someone very special to you....with that name "Chinki"...infact everybody did........he never complained.....
--papillon
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Perhaps this would be of your interest:
1. http://blanknoiseproject.blogspot.com/
And this is something i had posted a while back:
that was a good one.. that guy deserved it.. :)
grrr to those eve teasers. and i loved yr repartee!
the rest of india has tons to learn from the peoples of the north east as far as living in a community is concerned; they are way advanced.
hey, marry me.
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