Tuesday, May 05, 2009

Where does it end?

I fell in love with you watching Casablanca
Back row of the drive-in show in the flickering light
Popcorn and cokes beneath the stars
Became champagne and caviar
Making love on a long hot summer's night

They met at work, her first and his second. Sparks flew and the inevitable happened. It happened in a city where people were judged only by love and companionship, not the sameness of caste or creed. The relationship matured as they moved ahead with their careers and different companies. She had always been independent and that was what her parents intended too, sending away their daughter to the city to work. When the talk about marriage with this guy came up, however, the parents did not agree.

I think they have been going around for more than 6 years now. I find them to be like any other young, good-looking and compatible couple.

Her father died without agreeing to the alliance and that broke her resolve to go on fighting. Perhaps, he didn’t know he would die. It was cancer I heard. The mother still sings the same tune, widowed and still mourning the husband that would never come back, to fulfill his wishes without ever bothering to meet this guy. Is there a point? He is from a different caste you see!

She said she is not marrying him and have agreed to her mom to marry whoever she chooses. Makes me very bitter about the whole thing. The first words that came to mind were to say that the old man is dead but, I stopped myself.

They still meet and kill themselves a little each day.

I guess there're many broken hearts in Casablanca
You know I've never really been there so I don't know
I guess our love story will never be seen
On the big wide silver screen
But it hurt just as bad when I had to watch you go

30 comments:

austere said...

Sad.

Life.

Lie.

Aqua said...

this is so sad. awww. to think she'll regret it so bad when she's older.

and i love the song 'casablanca'. reminds me of my school days.

"Popcorn and cokes beneath the stars, Became champagne and caviar" ...sigh!

Arunima said...

@aqua: I feel very sad too. Can't imagine myself in their shoes.

geet said...

her father died and he died with unhappiness,thats what she might be feeling. there can be relatives who could be singing the same tune from long...

i can feel for the girl.been there,seen that.its really not easy to go against the family and top of it,if a tragedy happens.all the time she would see her father's unhappiness while she is married to the guy. that could be her state of mind as of now and its really not easy to break that. parents are our foundation and its really hard to see them sad or crying. and this is the worst(jab tum unko mana bhi nahin sakte).TIME will heal. I just hope it doesnt get too late for her. she needs support and no advice! sigh.

DewdropDream said...

How painful for them...

Oh I linked to your 'Womencipated' post, hope that's okay with you!

Arunima said...

@geet:very good points. She needs support I understand.

@dew: it's my pleasure! :-)

Cynic in Wonderland said...

it is sad.just heard of another couple like that - both classmates who after ten years of fighting with their parents gave in. the girl just got married last month. different religion tho.

after ten years one would have thought the parents would be ok with it.

Hemanshu Narsana said...

Hope one day they are able to get over this...

I don't intend to be mean. I just hope, one day, they are able to get over it.

DPhatsez said...

Me:"sniff!"
You:"Are you crying?"
Me:"who me? Crying?? Naaaww.. i just had something in my eye!"

:)
Good one!
Feel free to drop by my blog \m/

Arunima said...

@Dphatsez: sure, need to find out if you were cutting onions.

Stone said...

....and kill themselves a little each day.hmmm....that sums it up.

.....and I agree with her decision. Hope she gets all the happiness she deserves.

Hope and pray that nobody ever faces such dilemma!

Ricercar said...

on one hand i cant believe this kind of thing still happens, yet when you think again, how wasy is it weight and swap people you love ...

Arunima said...

@ricercar: hey, I have been meaning to read you from long, but you are open to invited readers only. Could you invite?

Suspended Animation said...

Really.. to believe such a thing happens even today.. reminds me of Raincoat..

Its difficult to understand in face of a tragedy.. but what is gone is gone.. why ruin the future?

And why do they kill each other..? why must she resign herself to a chance.. to a good-looking piece of randomness who may or may not be compatible with her... and then she'll waste away...

for the whims of age..

makes me bitter too..

I better leave..

|| sbk || said...

And like many of our hypocritical faces, this one wins the case too. It's sad, how much we are willing to open up and stay closed for the sake of nobodys,

anyhow, hi arunima, returned to blogging after what seemed like a decade.

hope to frequent often this time.
as usual, love reading your work.

cheers!

Mystique said...

bullcrappy not-nice caste system. and the belief in the caste system.

illusionaire said...

A caste-free world, where man can marry a woman regardless of which caste she belongs to, which gotra she belongs to, which race she belongs to... is still a Utopian dream in India.

But nevertheless we keep dreaming so that one day that dream becomes a reality. Slowly the sands of time sets things into motion and circumstances are a changing. Times are a changing. Glory days are soon a coming.

Arunima said...

@illusionaire: Amen! :-)

AmitL said...

That's so sad,Arunima..but then,on the other hand,that's what most part of our country is,even now..it's never an Indian marrying an Indian..it's a Gujju with a Gujju,an Iyengar with an Iyengar,a Maharashtrian with a Maharashtrian..the few 'odd'marriages between castes get frowned upon and only if luck smiles,the families deign to overlook the 'heinous'crime!Sigh!Hope this couple gets united,finally!Even if she's said she'll marry whoever her Mom chooses.I rather blame unrelenting parents in such cases..do you?

Arunima said...

@Amitl: yup, I blame the parents in this case. Manipuries that way are quiet liberal. Half of my friends are married to people outside the community.

White Magpie said...

They will grow out of it. Sometimes you gotta listen to experience.

If they wanted to get married, wouldnt they have by now? Endless speculation from your reader btw :) Maybe they should spend 7 days hooked up into one room and not come out and check the intensity of their feelings ;)

Aage ka raasta saaf dikhayi dega..

Meghna said...

awww thats so sad, I dont like sad stories Wahhhhhhhh!!!!

hey meaning to call you for some time now, will do soon...you might have heard na..that thing did not work out...so still on the lookout :)

Arunima said...

@Meghna: Sure, I'll be waiting for your call. :-)

@white magpie: I am tempted to give your suggestion to them. I think I will do it or perhaps, give this link.

Ricercar said...

Yes! Sure ... give me your email id?

Arunima said...

@ricercar: :-) I don't have your email either so, I am hoping you come back here and read this. arunima(at)gmail(dot)com.

I-swear-I-did-not-write-this said...

WOW!!! Beautiful write up... I just hope that none of them suffered from the Cassandra Effect at least when the rosy days of love and madness were on...Just imagine, trying to keep yourself normal and trying to soak in everything - yet realizing the futility of the entire episode...At least we can hope that it was awesome when it lasted and both of them have some awesome memories, which they are gonna treasure for years to come. Still cant stop feeling deeply for them... If only the world was a simpler place...where love and only love was paramount...

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Ricercar said...

done

Arunima said...

@ricercar: Thanks, I'll be there.

White Magpie said...

So did you?