Friday, July 28, 2006

Goodbye 9 to 5 and some updates.

Colleague in the next cubicle comes to work when I am about to leave for the day. I guess he is a consultant (shows how often we interact apart from the formalities) and has to interact with the counterparts elsewhere. I often hear him speaking to his little girl over the phone. Like a doting dad,” Hi honey, fine thank you, be a good girl, don’t trouble mama, I heard you have been wonderful, I’ll get you that, oh, did you do that? …” I don’t eavesdrop, at least consciously, but from the tone and the way the conversation goes, I can make out she is really cheerful at times and a bit moody at other times as if wishing him home. By the time, he reaches home, I am sure she will be fast asleep or ready for school and another day.

Another colleague says her spouse also works at night and they get to be with each other only over the weekend. They have two kids together and are put up in a posh apartment close by. She said it becomes tough at times to handle the kids.

Work has been pouring with hailstones. I don’t know when was the last time I saw the sun set on a working day. Yet, there are colleagues in other buildings and departments complaining that I come later and leave earlier, which is 8 pm. Lifestyles seem to be changing. Like we always say, times are a changing.

All of us are ambitious and end up in compromising many things. The definition of ‘basic necessity’ seems to have changed- the T.V, the bigger T.V, the flat T.V. It is not like we don’t know. Now, ‘luxury’ is going home at 5.00 pm.

Thinking back, I am amazed that J and me had gone to watch ‘Hum Tum’ in a Cinema hall, which was not so near and came back at midnight in an auto. Once, we had also come back walking from Brigades after 10, eating chicken kebabs. We really thought it was fun then. Now, I avoid going out at nights.

Update: A 30 ml Pepper Spray costs 500 bucks.

26 comments:

Khuman Ngakpa said...

Still lucky are those who are enjoying weekends even though no more Sun set.For me it is luxury to even take Saturday off inspite of official off.And, sometimes Sunday also.Perhaps, it was last year I took I saturday off as my uncle was visiting me.

Hemanshu said...

The luxury is definitely in going back at 5:00 pm. Infact our office times "officialy" are from 11am-4pm. But when I started leaving at 5:30, people would wag their tongues. Someone once said "he leaves at 5!" and I had retorted "no, at 4:00!".

And I make it a point not to work till 8pm. That is not life. Life is about coming to work by 9:30, and leaving by 5, and doing your best in between so that you may do your best after work too.

Anonymous said...

Deviji ! Did a virus attack your profile ? Are you OK ? Will McFee or Norton help ? Don't get allergic to Mungeri virus. I am just a passing fan. Have n't you heard of a saying ? I keep on falling in and out of love. Some of these fat black women sing really well ?

I again appreciate the way you touched such a delicate life issue. I don't know how many you see. I have two boys liek that spending the night at my home with my boys. One lives with a single father and the other with a single mother. Not indians.

Anyway, I really did not get the pepper mill update !

Deepak Jeswal said...

I am not at all surprised that India comes so low in the happiness quotient (a survey conducted by some intl orgn, read in the papers) and that the top listed countries were not the most expected ones like USA or Canada. In fact, Bhutan and Nepal fared better than India. Bhutan was no.8 prob. Perhaps the idyllic slow pace keeps people happy, even if their internet works at snails pace...they hv no worries , no tensions ... :-D

Personally, i wud luv to settle in such a place Kasauli, Kathmandu or Thimphu as well :) City life is horrific!

(Pepper spray is THAT expensive! No wonder it was part of some gift hamper by a local channel, and the host was stressing so much on the spray being there!)

seriously_frivolous said...

Work life balance is so screwed that most of parents get to see their kids grow horizontally* and seldom vertically.

* By the time they are home, kids are in bed sleeping

Rk said...

>>Now, ‘luxury’ is going home at 5.00 pm.
Succinctly said. When I think of future, I am unclear on what I want but clear that I should not be returning home at mid night.
>>Now, I avoid going out at nights.
I cringe at the life we are forced to lead in our own land.

AmitL said...

Even I've heard people communicating with their kids thusly...one guy even used to ask his kid to say 'ABCD..'over the phone.:)And,yes,that's so true...luxury is now going home on time(forget 'early')...that's why I'm enjoying this much-needed two months break...heh heh.

Mise said...

'Yet, there are colleagues in other buildings and departments complaining that I come later and leave earlier, which is 8 pm. Lifestyles seem to be changing'

Is this a lifestyle? maybe! A life? definitely not!

Anshuman Ghosh said...

well sometimes, it depends on you what worktime you choose. For example, I have flex-times. I know colleagues who work from 8am-5pm, as well as those who work from noon till late night (by choice) and soem like me, who choose a middle path of 11am - 9 pm.

If you wish, you can always spare time, its a matter of will in most cases ... and the lack of it for the 'spoilt' cases

burf said...

can u find a pepper spray in Archies? if not, where?

LostInVenus said...

awesome post,yup i do agree its little risky going out in night now.

LostInVenus said...

Nice post,liked it very much,

:: S-a-t-z :: said...

Nowadays guys too cant go out after 10PM :(.. daily i receive atleast one mail regarding safety in blr..

Arunima said...

@burf: It is available in 'Health and Glow', Brigade road (below music world). I don't know about other branches.

Pallavi said...

yeah.. its no longer safe :(

gone are those days.. :(

manuscrypts said...

reminds me of this..
"Year by year we are becoming better equipped to accomplish the things we are striving for. But what are we actually striving for?" ~ Bertrand de Jouvenel

anumita said...

Very well written and you are so so so right about the necessity and luxury bit.

Anonymous said...

Now I get the pepper stuff. Update: The cheapest that you can get here is $9.99 (BATA Price). The nice wooden ones (4 inches diameter & 24 inches height) cost about $29.99.These are darn good for male bashing. With one swipe, pour soul will be at heaven's door...

Mungeri

d4u said...

work-life balance has gone for a toss..

s! said...

i know exactly what you're saying.. the first two months when i started work, my hours were 10pm-9am six days a week.. but that's how things are these days.

akash said...

times change. we start feeling that it was better before. my mom says that 'beta its just part of growing older. If I have to pay 200 INR for a movie ticket I will complain.'

But you know what the more it changes more we yearn to return to things we would all want and some of us are lucky enough to have. Home food, someone to love, someone to cuddle up to when its raining and there is no electricity, someone to go to all the cheesy movies without cribbing, someone to share that particular song which was a rage in college and so on and so forth.

Yes Bangalore is not safe. Walking on the main road opposite Forum my friend was teased...

Make sure you have the phone number of the nearest police station from your house.

Arunima said...

@Mungeri: About my profle, it is one of those passing phases too. It will change. For now, I am loving it.

Minal said...

With the current pace of life why is it that the childhood memories and the kind of life that we had with a much more sedate and sane pace seems highly unreal...Is the life that we have left behind that difficult to accompalish?

Strangely, the phases of life in which I had been the happiest had also been the ones when I had been the lowest in terms of material gains.

Still can't figure out why am I spending a major part of my life (in fact the entire life) working to earn and get something which I do not eventually need?

Stupidity?

Arunima said...

@Minal: Are you sure we don't need it?

I think deep down we know we want to achieve more which is not wrong. But the trick would be in learning to balance up to an acceptable level and being happy with what we are.

Ajeya said...

strange isn't it. we've acquired more, yet have less.

nice blog btw, my first time around here.

Vikas said...

Not to be hypocrite or male chauvinist but this was the same reason I asked wife to leave her job. Of course she does take some creative classes, guitar classes during day. Earlier we both worked and both were stressed out and tired at the end of day, have to go out for eating on more regular basis (bad for health), more fights and all that stuff. Basically very little family time together. Now it is a different story. Since I know wife is at home I reach home at 4:30. I also go home for lunch. Of course we have cut down a bit here and there but it is the luxury of being together for entire evening and do some activities together. Still we are saving almost the same amount if both of us were working so in all it is working out pretty well except for one thing that I come to work at 7:30 in morning so that I can go home early. We solved this problem by moving near my work place… saves gas too 