Monday, June 20, 2005

My best friend is hooked

‘J’ got engaged yesterday, the 19th of June, 2005 with Mathew D’Souza. (She doesn’t have to change her surname after marriage. Lucky bum! ) Seeing her always in smiles makes me so happy that I could cry. When the proposal came, she was really reluctant. I told her to have an open mind and now, she has found in him the person that matches her in mind and in spirit. That leaves me wondering how it would be to go on with life without her.

“Let’s go for the night show (on a Thursday). Let’s go shopping and buy nothing. How do I look? (say something nice). I want to donate blood, come along (at 7pm cos I heard an announcement on the radio). Listen to my story for the 5th time. I am heart broken, why don’t you cook? Eat slowly, I don’t want people staring at me as I demolish this chicken on my plate. It’s raining. Let’s have Ice-cream and walk. Let’s not talk men today. He told me…”


Will all this end to ‘internet zindabaad’ for those nothing-new-to-share-you-take-care mails?

Having learnt how to share every chapter of my life the past few years even without missing any commas, I don’t know how to unlearn them. We don’t have two membership cards for any retail outlet or beauty products.

I hold sweet memories of one starry evening when we had chatted sitting on the steps of St. Patrick’s Church.
We rushed out of our respective jails a little after 5 pm and decided to meet with the enthusiasm of two children wishing to show off new dresses. (It’s always been like this though). We spoke about career growth, job switches (mine), the importance of being financially independent, marriage and about the guys that were presently absent or absently present in our lives (then). It was nice to build castles in the air, to decide to settle in the same city and someday, to take our kids for picnics sans husbands and to talk about ex-boyfriends who couldn’t upgrade themselves to husbands. We almost thought everything would be possible and fate AND men could be chosen anytime.

Mathew is from Mumbai but based in the States. He has no plans of coming back to India in the near future.
Life! It always rises above the floods of silver ignorance.
I am sooo happy but I am soo sad.

For the past few days, I was busy following Madam and being the hanger. She got up on the wrong side of the bed and suddenly decided to wear pink Ghagra-cholli for the engagement. If you saw two girls one like the small “i” and the other its capital counterpart,
they might just be us.

She looked like a princess and I was the bridesmaid. Yeah!!!!

And now, she is wearing diamonds, while my T-Shirt reads, “Boy Chaser…”

30 comments:

Nupur said...

aww! So sweet!!
*sigh* What times.... life is never fair is it. And specially losing friend's as special as this..!
But ofcourse you wont lose her..you'll be in touch and still..it won't be the same. Oh I can only imagine ur situation....

Tell you what..get her to find you a guy in the states too! ;)

shub said...

awwwww...so sweet girl! >:D< to u and ur friend! she's gonna miss you too....and then one day ur get swept away by your prince and then you'll live happily ever after too! :) you'll be okay!
PS: when a proposal came for my sis from the US, she was sooo reluctant, then I told her to keep an open mind...what if he's really nice guy...then she listened to me , n now she's tehre, far away!! N i miss her too!! sometime I say why the hell did u hafta listen to me n go so far away...but sh'e sooo happy now! :) me too!

Stone said...

Congratulations to D’Souzas and the bridesmade!!

Stone said...

bridesmaId.

burf said...

presently absent and absently presnt...kewl...keep up the good words

:D

Jo said...

Hmm... so sad. Happens with the guys too, when the best friends get married, they wont join on the usual hangouts or "bachelor" parties! :-)

d4u said...

Hmm...I can imagine...tats y I wish sumtimes that we hadnt grown up only cos some frenz are reely special..:-) Best wishes to your friend!!
As far as the post goes, I dunno which sentence 2 pick up cos its nicely written..:-)

Jas said...

Nice One. Really Touched with this one. Do wish J on my behalf too... Donno why but tears in my eyes too.. Hope ur gonna settle in the States too...

Chakshu said...

Have fun at the wedding :)

Anonymous said...

..and such is life! but believe me those who matter, shall always keep in touch. the rest are just lost in the crowd of the once-knew.

Parna

lemongrass.blogdrive.com

|| sbk || said...

You know what touched me most about this post of yours...It's you displaying your happiness for your friend "J"..very few people get happy for their friends..and (trust me) "best" friends..She's lucky to have a friend like you and yes, even though I don't know her..I feel happy for her. All the best to "J" and as for you..You Go girl! Cheers:)!

Manish said...

I were you, I would have been jeolous of her husband :-)

Mr. Maverick said...

I feel the ambivalence from the way you have portrayed it.

Congratulations to your friend :).

manuscrypts said...

seeing i to I ?? :)

Pallavi said...

Congratulations to your friend.. :)

Ajay said...

Yeah..losing ur best bud to time and distance can be terrible..u feel sad and happy at the same time..until u find ur own mate!!!
so gear up and start looking!! :)

Surinder said...

hey congrats to your friend :-) ..

hmm .. it should turn to "nothing-new-to-share-mail" situation .. i guess you two will have a lot more to talk about now :-)

feels so good to read about such friends :)

keep smiling :) .. (and hows the day going )

Anonymous said...

First of all, Thanks for dropping by my page, no matter mistakenly he sahi. You were there :). Nice post. Wish you all the best for your friend. I like that she does not need to change her last name. That's really wonderful :). May god bless the couple.

Rhicha

Arunima said...

missnupur: Do you think that will help? :-)

Shub: snif snif! I understand that too shubby

stone: you can miss out letters. I always do it. No formalities buddy.

burf: thanks and hope so, I can keep it up.

Jo: many of my friends told me too. It must be tough for the guys too. sniff sniff!

d4u: thanks a lot. see I am smiling too :-)

Arunima said...

Jas, hugs to you sweety. But, what makes you think I'll be happy by settling in the States?

What if my man is from Bangladesh or Timbaktu?

Arunima said...

Thanks, for the wishes guys. Ajay, I am taking your advice. Me all geared up.

Surinder, the day has been good. no work at all. Hope it was the same for all of you.

Reached chapter 23 of "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" and still going strong. I am loving it. yes, at work :-)

arvindiyer said...

OH..so that was YOU, with that T-shirt outside koshy's the other day? hehehehe

s! said...

congrats J!! you two should gimme a call when you get here to the US :-))

Dreamcatcher said...

yeeeah weddings are so much fun..
i was bridesmaid at my sister's wedding tooo.

divya said...

relationships live through distances they rise victorious over the miles...

AmitL said...

That was so nice,Arunima..good friends always leave nice memories,when they move away,I guess.:)I quite liked the last'boy chaser' tshirt line.heh heh..:)

romila said...

Poignant! me also lost my best friend to her husband. Now she is in states and five years down the line we are still in touch. You dont lose best friends. They will be with you forever.

Arunima said...

@ Arvind: If she was pretty, yes, else no, it was not me. :-)

Arunima said...

Oi S! It's 'J' who is going not me. Sorry, not a case of buy one get one free:-)

Nupur said...

ofcourse..!!!
That way you both can continue your girlie adventures while hubbys wonder where their wives are! ;)